WOMEN’S pursuit of beauty is a complex and debated topic in today’s image-focused society, where physical beauty is often seen as a defining trait. Over time, women have been put under pressure to conform to societal beauty standards, with people from different generations, including millennials, Gen Z, and Gen X, actively engaging in beauty practices. Beautification is not limited to age, as seen in the use of skincare products, makeup, exercise routines, and other methods aimed at improving one’s appearance.
However, why do some people criticize women who enjoy beautifying themselves?
Comments like “Who are you trying to impress?” or “You’re already married, why bother with enhancing your appearance?” are common. There is often skepticism about the methods used to achieve smoother or fairer skin, leading to negative comments despite receiving compliments for one’s appearance.
In the pursuit of beauty
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People often seek to appear attractive not only to be liked by others but also to enhance their own sense of self-worth. 22-year-old Melanie Reforma always makes sure that she looks presentable and pleasing because it boosts her confidence as a woman.
“I also avoid hurtful comments such as ‘you look tired,’ ‘you seem pale like you’re anemic,’ ‘you appear overweight,’ or ‘you’re not attractive anymore/your body is unappealing,’” she says.
Melanie acknowledges that inappropriate comments can have a negative effect on a woman’s self-esteem, highlighting the psychological link between beauty and confidence.
Allure of beauty
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In relationships, particularly for women, physical attractiveness plays a significant role. When it comes to establishing connections, being attractive can be advantageous. 28-year-old Mizpa Luci says, “My husband loves me because I am attractive, and I can’t argue with that.”
While inner qualities are essential for sustaining relationships, Mizpa points out that “physical appearance still holds into the initial stages of attraction.” Beauty can shape perceptions and impact social interactions. “Being attractive obtains compliments and facilitates meeting new people,” she says.
Nurturing relationships
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In emotional connections, beauty holds significant sway.
“Embracing beauty, even amidst life’s challenges like motherhood, not only reflects self-care but also shapes how your partner and those in your circle perceive and treat you,” says Mizpa.
“Enhancing our beauty is also a strategy women employ to captivate their partners and prevent outside temptations,” she adds.
The essence of beauty can play a role in romantic relationships. It helps sustain the relationship.
Gateway to opportunities
Beauty serves as a potent asset for women in today’s world. Reality is physical appearance can impact career progression and achievements.
“It unlocks numerous opportunities for me. At times, actual skills may take a backseat as long as you possess attractiveness for a particular role,” claims Mizpa.
Thus, the notion of “dressing for success” is rooted in the idea that presenting oneself well can open doors and create opportunities.
Respecting diverse expressions of beauty and understanding that each woman’s decision to beautify herself is a personal choice, as it contributes to her confidence and well-being.
There is no shame in desiring to present oneself well, and if using makeup and other beautifying methods bring happiness and confidence, then there is no issue with embracing it.
After all, nobody wishes to be called ugly.
DANICA LLANTE
