EVEN as we enter the professional world, we cherish our high school and college pals. They have seen our growth and changes from adolescence to adulthood. 

They comprehend our background, upbringing, and the events that shaped us. Our common history with them generates a one-of-a-kind relationship that is difficult to reproduce. 

While it may appear that our paths diverge after graduation, the relationships formed over those years frequently last and continue to affect us in profound ways. 

However, some of us might be struggling to balance our lives after work. Most of us are left wondering where they are today. How can we sustain our friendships despite our hectic work schedules? 

Nasaan na ang barkada?

For JD, an employee of republicasia, he and his friends are still connected. They might not see each other often but they keep their lines open.

“My college friends till now may gc parin kami and discord. So parang madalas tambay kami ng discord gabi-gabi, kaya parang don palang feel mo na kasama mo sila palagi. Tapos minsan pag nag seset ng ganap present lahat,” he said.

For them, work will never be a hindrance to their friendship. Despite having a busy schedule, they always try to find time to see each other. 

Having a job requires time away from your loved ones. What more from our friends who have their own work or commitments everyday as well?

Photo Courtesy: John Dale Lacdao 

“Wala namang effect, minsan ‘yung iba sobrang busy kaya ‘pag may ganap ‘di nakakasama pero tuloy parin ang ganap. We respect each other’s time and commitment naman sa mga bagay-bagay,” the 26-year-old JC said.

Mariel is also in constant communication with her former classmates. “I actually celebrated my 23rd birthday with my junior high school friends in La Union this April,” she said.

“I guess if the friendship is real, you don’t have to talk every day or make much effort to sustain it. We just know we’ll all be present in each other’s lives regardless of where we are right now,” she said.

When asked what challenges they faced as they transition to post-graduation, Mariel replied: “Time constraints. We can’t hang out as much as we want to since we have different schedules. So, when we have the time, we make sure to plan ahead.”

Why do we need them?

I mean, can we really just move forward with life without having our friends beside us? We can, but there are more reasons why we need them with us.

“As cliche as it sounds, no man is an island. We need friends to survive. Naniniwala rin kasi ako na ‘yung mga taong kinakaibigan natin, they reflect who we are as a person. So, make sure to surround yourself with good people,” Mariel said.

“They keep me grounded. We all grew up together so to maintain our friendship kahit working na kami, it amazes me,” she added, when asked how significant her bakada was for her.

“It is nice to be reminded that these are the people I started dreaming with and now we’re slowly attaining those dreams.”

Photo Courtesy: Mariel Roja

On the other hand, 24-year-old Danica and her high school friend rarely see each other. Given how packed their schedules are, they find it difficult to get free time to meet.

Despite their lack of time, she still believes that their friendship is vital. She carries it with her as she goes on with life while reminding herself how thankful she is to have her by her side.

“I believe that they are vital in all aspects of our lives because they can offer our lives with comfort at times of difficulty while also offering companionship on a regular basis,” Danica said.

Photo Courtesy: Danica Ulanday

Mariel and Danica both believe that friendship has a positive effect on one’s mental health. Someone who’s keeping you in check would indeed be a great sight to see.

“Since I’m an extrovert, my friends really help me recharge when everything feels overwhelming. I love my friends so much, they give me reason to keep going,” said Mariel.

“I feel that having friends has a significant impact on a person’s emotional well-being. They may help their peers in practical ways and boost their sense of belonging/purpose in their daily lives,” Danica explained.

A message to you, my dear friend

Given a chance to express their gratitude for their friends, these individuals would shout to the world how thankful they are to have valuable friendships.

“I’d tell my friend that she’s doing great in life and that I’ll always be there for her whenever she needs me,” Danica said.

“My love for all of you has not changed. Kahit saan tayo dalhin ng panahon, ‘yung pagkakaibigan na nabuo at inalagaan natin is one of the best experiences I’ve had in this lifetime,” said Mariel.

Indeed, our friends play an important part in our lives even as we pursue professional professions. 

Our common history, genuine connection and their continuous support, serve as constant reminders of the importance of friendship and maintaining meaningful relationships throughout our lives. 

As we traverse the complexities of life, the friendships we’ve formed as students will provide comfort, strength and joy, improving our journey along the way.