WHAT if crush rin niya ako? What if kaya siya nagpunta dito kasi gusto niya ako makita?
Having a crush on someone makes you go insane over a little interaction. You will treasure every moment and even think of different scenarios together. Some get super quiet around their crush while some become talkative keeping the conversation going. But sometimes, having a crush on someone is not enough, others, especially your friends would push you to let your crush know how you feel.
Does it ever cross your mind to confess your feelings to someone? Thinking, maybe you have a chance and the moment is now or never. Nowadays, people are getting bolder without the guy’s first move stereotype. “If you like someone, tell him/her.” But this is easier said than done. Confessing has underlying consequences, it either finishes all things at once or starts a sudden love story.
When talking about confession, we always hear the word, ‘rejection.’ It is the fear that most of the admirers don’t want to experience. But this should not be the case. Chriscia Mae Victorio, 22, who confessed to her crush, advised not to think about rejection, “Just go for it ‘cause it will definitely make him or her feel special.”
Serelyn Mataac, 18, who also confessed to her crush, advised to take the risk, “You’ll never know if your feelings are mutual unless you express them.”
But when is the perfect time to confess to someone? Jerome Laurente, 21, said that there is no perfect timing when confessing to someone you like. “Just get on with it and move on.”
Ram Ricamata, 20, advised others to confess if what they felt to someone is real. “Don’t play with their feelings. Saka huwag kayo gapaka-expect na porket gusto ninyo, gusto na din kayo para ‘di kayo masaktan. After all, we seek to find the love we truly deserve.”
When You Confess
When you confess, you’re not only sharing your feelings. You are risking the relationship that you already have. When you confess, there are many different possibilities that could happen. Serelyn, Jerome, and Chriscia, all confessed but got different responses.
Serelyn said that she got friendzoned by her crush. “We didn’t become friends, but we still casually talk and greet each other.”
Jerome compared his confession to his thesis revision. “Not rejected but not accepted. I’m not sure if I’m gonna be accepted or not,” he said
Chriscia stated that she was not rejected. “The feelings were mutual. The situation was complicated, but despite that, I confessed because it felt right to do so.”
Confessing is a one person decision and action, you can’t force someone to feel the same way you do. When you confess, you could be friendzoned. If lucky, your feelings could be mutual. There are some who will flat out reject you. Moreover, others might neither accept nor reject you just like what Jerome experienced. Things do not always go the way we wanted them to be. When you confess, you should be ready for different possibilities.
After the Confession
Changes happen after the confession. These changes depend on how the confession went.
If the feelings were mutual, there would be tension in the air that was not there before as Chriscia said, “Maybe, it’s because we were close friends before the confession happened, but the tension did not feel awkward.”
For Jerome, who was not rejected nor accepted, experienced the opposite from Chriscia, “There was lots of awkwardness.”
The tension after the confession is normal because you let the person know how you felt. Whether the person also likes you or not, he/she will be well aware of your feelings. That person will be mindful of the things he does around you.
There were many different ways the person you like would react to your feelings. Some will make it obvious that you have no chance. Some will act as if nothing happened because they don’t want to change the relationship that you already have. Some might feel the same way but will do nothing because they are still not ready to commit. Some might give you mixed signals or the push and pull method. Some might use you because they know that you like them.
People always see the negative perspective because someone usually gets rejected. They do not see the good thing about it. The good thing about confessing is you were able to let someone know that he/she is loved. Moreover, you were able to let go of the feelings that had been keeping you up all night.
As long as your feelings for someone are genuine, it’s okay to confess. It is the most important thing that you have to consider before confessing. If you are still not sure about your feelings, take some time and think about it first. It is not a game you want to play, especially, because it involves other people’s feelings.
